notanotherfandomblogger:

(Note: While this post discusses the recent doxxing of a well-known member of the Welcome To Night Vale fandom, I will not be using her real name at any point. While the name is undoubtedly known to many people, I nonetheless ask anyone reblogging or commenting on this post or related posts to practice similar discretion. The more distance she can put between her professional identity and the damaging false accusations made against her, the better.)

This post was created as part of a joint effort by several people. It was written by branwyn-says, and co-signed by some (but not all) of the people who have been personally affected by the situation. I created a new blog for this post, both to keep the bulk of the traffic away from my personal blog and so that other people could make posts on the subject at a later time, if they wished to. I apologize for any confusion created by my use of the passive voice, which I deemed necessary to protect people’s privacy.

The purpose of this post is to bring to light information that will hopefully prevent what happened to Tumblr user sodomquake from happening to anyone else. I will only present information that has been verified through screencaps or personal statements from multiple people involved.

This post concerns the actions of a particular Tumblr user, namely the individual who has admitted to creating the teethforlunch blog that doxxed sodomquake. After serious discussion with people who know this individual, we as a group have elected not to disclose their identity at this time. This decision was made in the interests of protecting vulnerable persons, and in the hopes that teethforlunch will choose to take a break from fandom for awhile and seriously consider the choices that led them to engage in behavior that has harmed many people. This post will be using they/their pronouns to refer to teethforlunch, not as a reflection of that person’s gender identity or personal pronoun choice, but simply to protect their privacy.

Our hope is that the information we are sharing will create a context for serious fandom discussions that address the way we engage one another when it comes to important matters such as social justice and accountability.

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itisnotaphase:

touchofgrey37:

Earlier, a 70 year old woman came in to get her grandson’s bike fixed. She saw my Flash shirt, got this look on her face, proceeded to dig around in her purse for a minute, then pulled out her keys. On her keyring along with her keys and a couple of little scanner tags were a really battered looking metal Wonder Woman symbol, and a newer looking metal Loki’s helmet.

She then told me a story that I’m pretty sure will stay with me the rest of my life.

She had been born at the tail-end of 1944, one of the original baby boomers. She was the eldest of three kids, and the only girl in a house of brothers. Her brothers were five and eight respectively when their classmates introduced them to comic books and she, at ten, used to take them to the dime store to blow their allowances. That was where she discovered that Wonder Woman existed, as she hadn’t been one of the comics that her brothers would bring home. After that, she worked out a pooling system for the three of them, to ensure that they got the most comics for their money with enough left over for sodas and candy, if they wanted them. The woman then paused in her story and laughed, saying that she should have spent fifty years as an accountant, instead of a nurse.

By the time she was fifteen, her middle brother had left comics behind, and their allowance pool had shrunk just in time for superhero comics to really make a comeback. She remembers getting yelled at for reading the first appearance of Barry Allen at the corner store, and deciding not to buy it in favor of a Superman story. “I never liked the Flash much.” She confided in me, looking nervous, as if I’d tell her to leave. “My brother loved him, though. Flash and Thor were always his favorites. I liked Wonder Woman, and the X-Men.”

Unfortunately, her youngest brother had been the keeper of their comics and went he went to fight in Vietnam in 1968 and never came back, their mother had been so consumed with grief that she burned everything of his other than his baby blanket, his high school diploma, his wallet (which contained various identification cards), his birth certificate, and a handful of family photos. The woman was devastated, both by the loss of her brother, and the loss of the collection that had kept them close for so many years, and didn’t speak to her mother, or pick up another comic, until the late 1970s.

She fell out of comics again in the early 90s when she retired, saying that she found so much of the art ugly and the stories angry. It wasn’t until her first grandchild was born, a girl, that she decided to start again. It was 2003, and she, a 59 year old woman, went into a comic shop and bought the latest issues of Wonder Woman and X-Men.

It took me a second to dig through my mind and remember who was on what at that time, but then it clicked. “Greg Rucka’s Wonder Woman run!” I said, and she nodded excitedly. We then spent a few minutes talking about the things that we’d liked about that run, and a few more talking about the things that were still in continuity that came out of Grant Morrison’s New X-Men, and then her phone rang. She, at 70 years old, had a Captain America phone case!

She apologized, that was her son. She was supposed to be meeting him at the theater with his kids to see the new X-Men movie. I warned her that there was some gore, and a couple of bad swears, and she laughed again. “They know that if they try and copy the things they see in movies, nana will wallop them, but thank you!”

I told her that I’d try and get her bike done as soon as possible, and she left.

I should have gotten a picture to go with this story, because that was the raddest old lady I’ve ever met in my life.

h/t to amemait for linking me to this post! <3

colethewolf:

Teen Wolf has a launched a website for “Teen Wolf fans”, which aims to have fans upload their fanwork—including fanfic, fanwork, music, poems, and meta. 
This is NOT a safe place for Teen Wolf fans (or any fans for that matter) to gather, and post their fanwork. MTV and Teen Wolf reserve the right to use your creations, and make profit from them. I, personally, find this unacceptable. Your creations, are your creations. Not theirs.
As written in the User Content Submission Agreement:

In connection with all User Content you submit using the User Content Submission Features, you grant to MTV, the Parent Companies and the Affiliates, the unqualified, unrestricted, unconditional, unlimited, worldwide, irrevocable, perpetual and royalty free right, license, authorization and permission, in any form or format, on or through any media or medium and with any technology or devices now known or hereafter developed or discovered, in whole or in part, to host, cache, store, maintain, use, reproduce, distribute, display, exhibit, perform, publish, broadcast, transmit, modify, prepare derivative works of, adapt, reformat, translate, and otherwise exploit all or any portion of your User Content on the Site (regardless of the Device through which the Site may be accessed) and any other channels, services, and other distribution platforms, whether currently existing or existing or developed in the future, of MTV, the Parent Companies and the Affiliates (collectively, the “Platforms”), for any purpose whatsoever (including, without limitation, for any promotional purposes) without accounting, notification, credit or other obligation to you, and the right to license and sub-license and authorize others to exercise any of the rights granted hereunder to MTV, the Parent Companies and Affiliates, in our sole discretion.

What exactly does this mean?
It means that they are going to use your work, your creations, for promotion and advertisement for their show—to earn themselves money—but you will NOT earn anything in return. 
You are legitimately handing over your hard work, so that they can get money, and no royalties will come to you. They can do whatever they want with your work. 
—
Furthermore, please also note that MTV, and MTVteenwolf do NOT respect slash in any nature whatsoever. Now, they may pretend that they care about all fans, however, that is a LIE. I honestly don’t want to see innocent fans fall into their lies and promises that all fans are accepted. 
Slash is huge, but they do NOT respect it. So, do not waste your time trying to put your slash work on their site. They do not appreciate it, nor do they appreciate you. 
First off, Teen Wolf queerbaits. This is the first thing that should tell you immediately that Teen Wolf does not respect slash. They use fans, mostly the fans of slash pairings, to earn themselves recognition and money, and then treat us like nothing. 
Second, I suspect most of you have already heard about Sterek material being banned from conventions. Now, while they may want you to believe that they have nothing to do with bans, and that those bans are put into place by the conventions and the actors agents, MTV and the Teen Wolf PR team are most definitely responsible for these bans. 
They have no problem banning things in relation to a popular homosexual pairing, yet they openly allow heterosexual parings to be talked about at cons, as well as they allowed fanart and fanwork of other heterosexual pairings to be signed.
Teen Wolf does NOT respect all fans. 
The Collective will be a place where fanwork of heterosexual nature will be posted without a big deal, but you will most likely find that slashwork will not be acceptable in most forms. They may, at first, allow some slash work to be posted. However, things will change. Please, do not allow yourself to be tricked and used. 
The Collective, is just a way for them to get attention. Teen Wolf is successful because of social media. It’s a huge social show, and the fans built that. However, their social media ratings are indeed falling, which I suspect is the reason this site has been created. Not because they care about fans.
They want more attention, more viewership, better ratings. This is an attempt to do so, and they are going to use fans to get better ratings. This is all a ploy to take your work, use it, and get earn themselves a pay off.
As stated in their introduction piece, they say: ”We encourage any and all “Teen Wolf” fans to sign up for The Collective and share your thoughts, opinions, and talents with us.”
However, they’ve made it quite clear that they do not care for our thoughts and opinions when they don’t suit them. Constructive criticism is ignored. When we bring up plot holes, and certain storylines that do not make sense, they ignore us and tell us that they run the show.
When we point out gross things like the non-con and abusive scenes between various couples, they ignore us as well, and continue stanning for these couples, claiming how they are cute and romantic.
As I said before, do NOT allow yourself to be fooled. They do not care about fans. They care about money, which is what they earn by keeping Teen Wolf in a high social media infused bracket. 
I encourage ALL fans, to just keep posting their fanwork (of all kinds) here on Tumblr. Share your artwork here. Share your meta here. Share your opinions here. 
Here on Tumblr, things cannot be monitored and sculpted to fit MTVteenwolf’s vision of what’s acceptable.
I also encourage ALL fans to post their fanfic on Archive of Our Own (or other fanfiction oriented sites). Ao3 accepts all work, and most definitely slash work. 
MTV, and MTVteenwolf have used us for as long as Teen Wolf has been on air. It’s time we take a stand. Please do not allow yourself to be used and exploited by using The Collective. This, in itself, is just a way for them to make money while spitting on you and your hard work. 
[Also, please spread the word about The Collective gaining immediate ownership of the work submitted on their site. Dedicated and innocent fans should not have their work stolen.]
Be safe and wise, Teen Wolf fans. 
-Cole

colethewolf:

Teen Wolf has a launched a website for “Teen Wolf fans”, which aims to have fans upload their fanwork—including fanfic, fanwork, music, poems, and meta. 

This is NOT a safe place for Teen Wolf fans (or any fans for that matter) to gather, and post their fanwork. MTV and Teen Wolf reserve the right to use your creations, and make profit from them. I, personally, find this unacceptable. Your creations, are your creations. Not theirs.

As written in the User Content Submission Agreement:

In connection with all User Content you submit using the User Content Submission Features, you grant to MTV, the Parent Companies and the Affiliates, the unqualified, unrestricted, unconditional, unlimited, worldwide, irrevocable, perpetual and royalty free right, license, authorization and permission, in any form or format, on or through any media or medium and with any technology or devices now known or hereafter developed or discovered, in whole or in part, to host, cache, store, maintain, use, reproduce, distribute, display, exhibit, perform, publish, broadcast, transmit, modify, prepare derivative works of, adapt, reformat, translate, and otherwise exploit all or any portion of your User Content on the Site (regardless of the Device through which the Site may be accessed) and any other channels, services, and other distribution platforms, whether currently existing or existing or developed in the future, of MTV, the Parent Companies and the Affiliates (collectively, the “Platforms”), for any purpose whatsoever (including, without limitation, for any promotional purposes) without accounting, notification, credit or other obligation to you, and the right to license and sub-license and authorize others to exercise any of the rights granted hereunder to MTV, the Parent Companies and Affiliates, in our sole discretion.

What exactly does this mean?

It means that they are going to use your work, your creations, for promotion and advertisement for their show—to earn themselves money—but you will NOT earn anything in return. 

You are legitimately handing over your hard work, so that they can get money, and no royalties will come to you. They can do whatever they want with your work. 

Furthermore, please also note that MTV, and MTVteenwolf do NOT respect slash in any nature whatsoever. Now, they may pretend that they care about all fans, however, that is a LIE. I honestly don’t want to see innocent fans fall into their lies and promises that all fans are accepted. 

Slash is huge, but they do NOT respect it. So, do not waste your time trying to put your slash work on their site. They do not appreciate it, nor do they appreciate you. 

First off, Teen Wolf queerbaits. This is the first thing that should tell you immediately that Teen Wolf does not respect slash. They use fans, mostly the fans of slash pairings, to earn themselves recognition and money, and then treat us like nothing. 

Second, I suspect most of you have already heard about Sterek material being banned from conventions. Now, while they may want you to believe that they have nothing to do with bans, and that those bans are put into place by the conventions and the actors agents, MTV and the Teen Wolf PR team are most definitely responsible for these bans. 

They have no problem banning things in relation to a popular homosexual pairing, yet they openly allow heterosexual parings to be talked about at cons, as well as they allowed fanart and fanwork of other heterosexual pairings to be signed.

Teen Wolf does NOT respect all fans.

The Collective will be a place where fanwork of heterosexual nature will be posted without a big deal, but you will most likely find that slashwork will not be acceptable in most forms. They may, at first, allow some slash work to be posted. However, things will change. Please, do not allow yourself to be tricked and used. 

The Collective, is just a way for them to get attention. Teen Wolf is successful because of social media. It’s a huge social show, and the fans built that. However, their social media ratings are indeed falling, which I suspect is the reason this site has been created. Not because they care about fans.

They want more attention, more viewership, better ratings. This is an attempt to do so, and they are going to use fans to get better ratings. This is all a ploy to take your work, use it, and get earn themselves a pay off.

As stated in their introduction piece, they say: ”We encourage any and all “Teen Wolf” fans to sign up for The Collective and share your thoughts, opinions, and talents with us.”

However, they’ve made it quite clear that they do not care for our thoughts and opinions when they don’t suit them. Constructive criticism is ignored. When we bring up plot holes, and certain storylines that do not make sense, they ignore us and tell us that they run the show.

When we point out gross things like the non-con and abusive scenes between various couples, they ignore us as well, and continue stanning for these couples, claiming how they are cute and romantic.

As I said before, do NOT allow yourself to be fooled. They do not care about fans. They care about money, which is what they earn by keeping Teen Wolf in a high social media infused bracket. 

I encourage ALL fans, to just keep posting their fanwork (of all kinds) here on Tumblr. Share your artwork here. Share your meta here. Share your opinions here. 

Here on Tumblr, things cannot be monitored and sculpted to fit MTVteenwolf’s vision of what’s acceptable.

I also encourage ALL fans to post their fanfic on Archive of Our Own (or other fanfiction oriented sites). Ao3 accepts all work, and most definitely slash work. 

MTV, and MTVteenwolf have used us for as long as Teen Wolf has been on air. It’s time we take a stand. Please do not allow yourself to be used and exploited by using The Collective. This, in itself, is just a way for them to make money while spitting on you and your hard work. 

[Also, please spread the word about The Collective gaining immediate ownership of the work submitted on their site. Dedicated and innocent fans should not have their work stolen.]

Be safe and wise, Teen Wolf fans. 

-Cole

What is significant about fan fiction is that it often spins the kind of stories that showrunners wouldn’t think to tell, because fanficcers often come from a different demographic. The discomfort seems to be not that the shows are being reinterpreted by fans, but that they are being reinterpreted by the wrong sorts of fans - women, people of colour, queer kids, horny teenagers, people who are not professional writers, people who actually care about continuity (sorry). The proper way for cultural mythmaking to progress, it is implied, is for privileged men to recreate the works of privileged men from previous generations whilst everyone else listens quietly.

cactusspatz said: For the writing meme: 28, and/or 47

28: Which do you find hardest: the beginning, the middle, or the end?

The middle, definitely. I am prone to dither a bit trying to come up with just the right first line and just the right last line, and I can shy at the last fence when I’m about to finish something—not that this is happening right now in the form of writing tumblr meme replies instead of finishing a sex scene or anything—but oh god, middles.

I tend to write long, so there’s often a LOT of middle to deal with. And at the beginning it’s exciting—woo! starting a new thing! best idea ever! this is going to be great!—and at the end it’s exciting—gonna FINISH a thing! yes! finishing!—but the middle, god, there is so much slogging along and just patiently adding however many words in a day and knowing it won’t be finished today, or this week, or this month, but you still have to put down the words, and come back tomorrow and put down more words, and come back the next day and put down more words and it still won’t be done.

The middle is also where I have to make a lot of decisions I haven’t thought through already, usually. I’ll think out the beginning in pretty good detail before I start writing, and all the way along I kind of have an eye on the ending, so when I get to the ending, whoosh, I’m in it—it’ll change along the way, but I’ll know what it is when I get there. But middles are full of, just, “Hmmm, I guess… I guess I’m doing a tangent about cookies now? That’s happening? I guess, uh, when I said “this goes badly” in that outline I guess that’s going to be a four-scene delve into dissociation? Uhhh, okay, okay, we can do that….”

So, yeah, the middle. The middle is rough. And I’m nearly always in the middle of several things at once.

47:If you could steal one character from another author and make them yours, who would it be and why?

…So I gather this meme was not actually intended for fic-writers, because that is sort of what we do. Or, as Resonant put it the other night, “We don’t exactly steal them. We invite them to our parties and they have more fun here than they do at home.”

And, I mean, that’s my secret, Cap. That’s fandom’s secret. Every character is always ours. If you care about a character enough to give them space in your head even when you’re not reading or watching the thing they come from, they belong to you. And you can do anything you want with them.

Though, now that I think about it, if I could literally take away a character from their creator and make them mine so that I got to control their canonical destiny, at just this moment, it would probably be TJ Hammond. Political Animals is over anyway, they don’t even need him, but I really, really need TJ to be okay and canon was never going to do that for him. I’m not sure I know how to do that either, but I WOULD FIGURE SOMETHING OUT.

ngoziu:

ironfries:

curseofthefanartlords:

deadpoolsexual:

sassysharpshooter:

blameitonthesilence:

fivepips:

god-particle:

  #insanely in depth theory as to how this fictional character is feeling #so called evidence by the way of a fold in a jacket, the time it took to blink, a surreptitious glance to the back #blogger’s analysis of the character’s background and how he came to be like this #theories on what he’s thinking #blogger then goes on to write a novel about how it makes them feel  

EXAGGERATED REACTION IN CAPITALS

GIF OF SOMEONE CRYING AND A KEYSMASH FOLLOWED BY OTP NAME AND “FEELS”

#me saying how much this isnt ok

pun that relates to the original post and makes it that much worse

REPEATS THAT PUN IN BOLD, CAPITAL, ITALIC LETTERS.

Unamused questioning as to whether the repeated pun was necessary?

#snarky tag #another snarky tag

Comment implying poster leaving the internet.

ngoziu:

ironfries:

curseofthefanartlords:

deadpoolsexual:

sassysharpshooter:

blameitonthesilence:

fivepips:

god-particle:

EXAGGERATED REACTION IN CAPITALS

image

GIF OF SOMEONE CRYING AND A KEYSMASH FOLLOWED BY OTP NAME AND “FEELS”

#me saying how much this isnt ok

pun that relates to the original post and makes it that much worse

REPEATS THAT PUN IN BOLD, CAPITAL, ITALIC LETTERS.

Unamused questioning as to whether the repeated pun was necessary?

#snarky tag #another snarky tag

Comment implying poster leaving the internet.

(Source: partygentle)

lemonsharks:

saathi1013:

And now I’m pissed b/c I work for a couple smallish (1000 or so people) conventions in the Chicago area, and people are gonna be fucking wary of us - I’m already seeing snide comments about “Illinois,” and about how ‘fan-run’ conventions aren’t to be trusted, like what, massive conrunning corporations are always trustworthy? shyeah, no.

Admittedly, the cons I work / have worked for have been around for decades and have policies that prevent fusterclucks like this from happening, but I’m feeling the miasma creeping out in our direction, and I ain’t liking it.  Not to mention: I want to support fan-run start-up conventions!  Especially if they’re catering to audiences like Tumblrfen!  But now there’s advice going around about how all first-year cons are not to be trusted.

Here’s the real deal: first-year conrunners who don’t seem to have a lawyer or any experience on a concom or who sell unreasonable expectations with a high sticker price are not to be trusted.

Conventions in the Chicago area that I have gone to &/or worked at &/or have heard good things* about from reliable sources:
ACen
- C2E2

CapriCon
- DucKon
- WindyCon

* this is not to say that all of these conventions have content that you’ll be interested in, nor that they don’t have their share of problems (all conventions have issues, but not ‘people think this was a scam’ problems).  Always research policies, guests, sites, and programming before you go to a convention.  And many of these conventions actively look for volunteers and input on their events/content, so people can not only learn from seasoned conrunners but also help make their own convention enjoyable for folks of all kinds.

THIS.

CHICAGO has loads of excellent cons.

DASHCON was a sucky con in Chicagoland that treated its attendees and guests badly.

chead said: hey what's up with the "!" in fandoms? i.e. "fat!<thing>" just curious thaxxx <3

nentuaby:

hosekisama:

michaelblume:

molly-ren:

stevita:

molly-ren:

molly-ren:

I have asked this myself in the past and never gotten an answer.

Maybe today will be the day we are both finally enlightened.

woodsgotweird said: man i just jumped on the bandwagon because i am a sheep. i have no idea where it came from and i ask myself this question all the time

Maybe someone made a typo and it just got out of hand?

I kinda feel like panic!at the disco started the whole exclamation point thing and then it caught on around the internet, but maybe they got it from somewhere else, IDK.

The world may never know…

Maybe it’s something mathematical?

I’ve been in fandom since *about* when Panic! formed and the adjective!character thing was already going strong, pretty sure it predates them.

It’s a way of referring to particular variations of (usually) a character — dark!Will, junkie!Sherlock, et cetera. I have suspected for a while that it originated from some archive system that didn’t accommodate spaces in its tags, so to make common interpretations/versions of the characters searchable, people started jamming the words together with an infix.

(Lately I’ve seen people use the ! notation when the suffix isn’t the full name, but is actually the second part of a common fandom portmanteau. This bothers me a lot but it happens, so it’s worth being aware of.)

"Bang paths" (! is called a "bang"when not used for emphasis) were the first addressing scheme for email, before modern automatic routing was set up. If you wanted to write a mail to the Steve here in Engineering, you just wrote "Steve" in the to: field and the computer sent it to the local account named Steve. But if it was Steve over in the physics department you wrote it to phys!Steve; the computer sent it to the "phys" computer, which sent it in turn to the Steve account. To get Steve in the Art department over at NYU, you wrote NYU!art!Steve- your computer sends it to the NYU gateway computer sends it to the "art" computer sends it to the Steve account. Etc. ("Bang"s were just chosen because they were on the keyboard, not too visually noisy, and not used for a huge lot already).

It became pretty standard jargon, as I understand, to disambiguate when writing to other humans. First phys!Steve vs the Steve right next to you, just like you were taking to the machine, then getting looser (as jargon does) to reference, say, bearded!Steve vs bald!Steve.

So I’m guessing alternate character version tags probably came from that.

buckbarrow:

do you ever have second-hand obsessions

like one of your friends is super obsessed with a thing so whenever you see something about it you’re like “YES THIS THING” but you’re not the one obsessed with it. they are. you know very little about this thing and yet it still excites you because it excites your friend

The Next Story After This

"I mean, yes, this story is good, I like this story I just wrote and there are going to be other people who like this story, too—but if they don’t, I’ll get them next time. They’ll like the next one. Because the next story is the KILLER story—the next story I write, wow, that’s totally going to be the one that rocks people’s socks. Or, okay, maybe not the next one, because I’ve started the next one, and it’s kind of a mess, and it’s not at all the way I thought it would be in my head—but the one after that? The one after that, maybe I’ll get another Chicago’s Most Wanted or something, another Eggroll. Hey, it could happen! But I have to write through this thing on my hard drive to get there, get this story out of my system, because if I don’t write this thing I won’t be able to get to that thing, that hypothetical Gatsby Perfect Story that’s the next story after this.”

Fandom vs. nonfandom folks, part 3

hugealienpie:

Ah, that glorious moment when someone asks, “Whatcha doing?” and I scramble for an answer that’s *not* “Rereading a 250,000-word fanfic about kidnapping, torture, amnesia, and sibling incest.”

Tech Writer Clive Thompson: “The world of fanfiction is the most technologically explosive thing I’ve ever seen in my life.”

almostperfectalibi:

The leading flank in discovering how to use technology in cool, interesting, thoughtful ways will generally always be the amateurs. […]

I have a whole theory, actually, that the world of fan fiction is the most technologically explosive thing I’ve ever seen in my life. Every single technology that has come along, fan fiction people have come along and colonized it and stress-tested it and found the most amazing things. They were the first people to realize the potential of meta-tagging and bookmarking sites. Like, here’s a link with four tags, and then you go to a fan fiction person, and they have a link, and it has 70 tags. They are pushing this to absolute limit, and they are finding these amazing ways to sort knowledge.

It’s all because they’re passionate and nobody is making any money off of it and they don’t want to make any money off of it. They get some amazing stuff done. If you’re ever wondering about a future technology, just drop what you’re doing and find out what fan fiction people are doing with it. What are fan fiction people doing right now with WhatsApp? I don’t know. But, whatever it is, it’s the future. 

- SXSW Interview: Author Clive Thompson Explains FOMO, the NSA, and His Latest Book, “Smarter Than You Think” (x)

wow!

(Source: mugenmine)

"why do fangirls always make them gay?"

teland:

frankcoffee:

euclase2:

amberfeather:

euclase2:

Imagine being in a relationship in which you are treated like an equal, consciously and unconsciously, sexually, emotionally, socially, romantically, without being bound by gender expectations, without risk of pregnancy (or having your reproductive rights taken away from you), without feelings of inferiority, without being mistreated or neglected because men don’t understand your body and can’t be bothered to learn how to give you pleasure (or that you even deserve pleasure). Imagine having a reciprocating relationship with someone who knows how to touch you and how to talk to you, who will never abuse you or take away your consent. Imaging feeling powerful, safe, like the default rather than the specific or second-class. Imagine not requiring special handling by awkward, inconsiderate men who were never taught any better. Imagine being allowed to touch and enjoy and indulge without apprehension. Imagine being able to trust your partner. Imagine knowledge and understanding, someone who sees your depths and treats you the way you’d treat yourself if you hadn’t been told from birth that you weren’t worth it.

Girls aren’t “making them gay.”

Girls are fantasizing about being equal.

I have wondering about this in fandom for many years and reading this just made me tear up. I figured this was a big reason, but breaking it down to this extent made me so extremely sad. I realized a long time ago that even if I met the nicest guy in the world, I still have to battle all those things mentioned above. Just being friends is hard. I don’t have a happy history in this area like a lot of women and I have major trust issues with men and I wish somehow that wall could be broken down and we could all truly be seen as equal…as people with value. If you have all of the above with someone of the opposite sex then you are really lucky. See women are expected to give all those things listed above and settle for not getting them in return. I believe it’s a rare thing if you have it returned. Like I said, if I was with the nicest guy in the world I will always doubt myself, think he see’s me as different, talk to me different… Why? Because that’s our experience. This world raises us to believe we are worth absolutely nothing. The idea of being equal is one of our greatest fantasies. 

It’s sad that it has to be a fantasy. 

It’s totally sad.

But on the other hand, slash writers are some of the most empathetic people I know. And they’re great educators, too, probably in ways they might not expect. A good slash fanfiction writer can help women understand their desires and overcome some of those feelings of shame and worthlessness.

Think about how many girls have learned how to masturbate thanks to slash fanfiction.

Sometimes just knowing that we’re all reading and enjoying the stories is an immense comfort. People will tell you that slash is trash, that fangirls are desperate and pathetic, but ladies telling ladies that they’re allowed is a powerful thing.

Yeah, oh man. This is. Yeah, this is a lot. I especially feel the taboo surrounding female sexuality to the point that even though I’m Pretty Gay myself, I’m uncomfortable with my own sexuality (not as in orientation) and also dealing with the sexuality of other women. Like in some ways, I am always hesitant to appreciate sexiness in women because we are almost never shown female sexuality in a safe, respectful, and equal way and it still freaks me out. 

I will never forget — and I wish so *badly* I still had a copy — the essay one of my exes wrote before she gafiated, in which she talked about how the act of writing slash and being part of the slash community in general had allowed her to “write herself back into her body”.

To, essentially, take off some of the blinders and filters western culture had put on her, all the things that had convinced her that, as an “overtall, fat, awkward, anxious, and altogether unattractive” person (she did have some anxiety issues, but none of the rest was true by any measure but all the lies we’ve ALL been told), she deserved neither happiness, nor romance, nor anything resembling sexual parity or satisfaction.

We met through fandom — she later told me she’d been quietly lurking on my mailing lists and around my websites for two years before she ever actually spoke to me — and we had four good years together before our relationship started to fall apart.

And, while not all of our happiness — together and separately — can be laid at the feet of the various slash goddesses, quite a lot of it can be.

Slash wrote *me* back into my body, too — several times, in several ways. Slash connected me to genders I never could’ve imagined, or could’ve imagined being *worth* connecting to in the days before I really understood the possibilities inherent to taking the media I had been given and *transforming* it.

We are *here*, and our pleasure is worth it — our pleasures, plural, are part and parcel of our identities.

And, you know, some of us, after we’ve been writing slash for a good, long while?

Find new ways to express those pleasures when women are there, new ways to understand those aspects of our sexualities — our *identities* — which include *hetero*sexuality.

It’s a journey. A process. A continuum. A spectrum. A *multiverse*.

Of *pleasure*.

And it’s all allowed.

Because we made it that way.

Because we *make* it that way.

Every day.

Oh, hey, Te, is that this essay, by any chance? http://jessica-ruth.diaryland.com/020301_62.html

Because I have been hanging on to that link for eleven years and still find cause to share it with people on a pretty regular basis.

Fan fiction is a way of the culture repairing the damage done in a system where contemporary myths are owned by corporations instead of by the folk.

elizabethian-cows:

cyberalpaca:

It’s simple to be cool with other people.

This is an unexpectedly happy comic